For our nutrition and, indeed, in every aspect of our lives, we must remember to rest from unrealistic idealistic demands. For those who are trying to lose weight, you can't be Barbie. For those who lift weights, you can't be the Governor of California. Adopting this principle first, can give you peace of mind to love what you have, reduce frustration, and actually make weight loss easier in the long run!
A few years ago while driving to a drugstore, I witnessed a family trip across the street. There was a woman in her 70s with thick black hair running back. Next to her was another woman with thick black hair running back. And walking with them, a teenager with thick black hair flowed behind her, and next to her was a girl about six years old with thick black hair flowing behind her.
The teen pushed the car. I crawled over my neck and watched the little baby slip into it - no mass of black hair flowing. But I can see a little bit of black hair starting and I'm ready to bet on what the future will look like.
I drove to a drug store that felt a little gloomy. When I got to the store, I saw a line of hair beauty products. Products for pumping volume, smooth, curl, add bounce. I've tried many of them in the past with maybe some improvements but not many. All I need is more hair. If any women on foot would give me just a little bit of their hair, I would really benefit and I doubt they would. I have fine blonde baby hair. The kind that flows in hot, warm weather and loses style quickly.
Later that week, I happened to catch Maury's talk. Women are on the show complaining about their hair. A young Latin American woman caught my attention. About 14 years old, he had black hair. He grew out of his head and went all over the place. She cries when she tells Maury that she hasn't had a brush in her hair for years because she got all tangled. I was shocked when she told Maury that an insect landed on her hair and lived there. And I think I have a hair problem.
After watching the show, I began to think of my hair instead of seeing it as a problem that I decided to focus on. OK my hair is really good ... but that means a few minutes with a blow dryer is all it takes to dry it. My hair grows very slowly ... but that means I save money when I get highlights because it takes forever to grow. Also I do not have to pay for "UPDO" because there is not enough hair to do!
I think of my struggle to have long hair. My dream hair is long and shiny. I came up with the idea a long time ago and decided to solve a long chin bob. But that doesn't work either. My hair looks flat and plump.
It's the same as my nails. I want a long nail but the nail and calcium products do not produce results. At that time and there I decided to FIND what I had and worked with it to make life easy and delicious. Instead of fighting my genetic code, I'll work with it.
Next stop the hairdresser. I cut my hair into a very simple bob that hit just below the ear. On "good hair day" I can wear it on my ears. And at worst or when I'm stuck in the rain, I can smooth it behind my ears. The highlight was to give it a more glowing body and I bought a product that while they didn't work their magic on my hair.
Next I threw all my nail polish. They may work for others but they don't work for me. I file my nails long, easy to blunt. I bought very good files and chamois buffer. If I draw them, I'll use pink or pale. But often they are only transmitted to healthy light. No more fights with nails. Wow!
It is amazing how good our feelings are and how easy our lives are when we accept what we have and work to our advantage. Think about what you have, that you are struggling to change. Is there something you can change or is there something you cannot change? Life is easier when you work with what you have.
Indeed, no one would blame me for Breck Girl or the women in the commercial Herbal Essence Shampoo. But that's OK because I'm enjoying my hair and nails right now and that's what matters!
Self Acceptance - Lessons From My Hair Affair
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